Let's build bridges rather than burn them
I REFER to Dr Thio Su Mien's letter yesterday, 'Militant religionism? It's family values'.
In it, she states her endorsement of mainstream and government-supported family structure and values.
I believe Singapore should not merely be a domain wherein the majority always wins or has the final say. This should be complemented and buffered by values of pluralism and polycentrism.
That said, every identity, faith and family structure deserves the same right to participate, to be represented, respected and protected.
The conventional family structure, according to the Government as reiterated by Dr Thio, may be the 'heterosexual stable family'. However, we should not use this rhetoric - or even hide behind it - to dehumanise, devalue and discriminate against other family structures.
Like Dr Thio, I am against anti-religious hostility. Singaporeans have the right to faith and the right to participate in domain of religion.
Unfortunately, people from religious domains have sought to belittle, invalidate and delegitimise various segments and communities in the public domain.
The public domain consists of people of diverse faiths and religious affiliations, and even the understated non-religious. However, it involves a lopsided participation and representation of views and discourses from specific circles. I believe it is not merely the alleged presence of a numerical majority, but rather the participation of an educated elite with an opposing moral agenda.
As a son and a husband, I believe in family values too, but these values are based more on function than form or appearance. Love and safety are two important values.
The structure of any family outside our own should neither concern nor affect us. If it does, we need to question the extent to which we claim moral, intellectual and emotional superiority and righteousness over others.
I also take issue with Dr Thio's labelling of the 'homosexual agenda' in Singapore.
The term, originating in the United States in the 1990s, is polarising. Moreover, it exacerbates social division with obscene amounts of misinformation, self-righteous moralising and fear-mongering.
The term is also generalising, simplistic and disrespectful to those who seek to address issues of discrimination, equality, protection and pluralistic social integration. I find it unnerving that there are some who want to make Singapore unsafe - socially, emotionally and professionally unsafe - for people who identify as 'queer'.
Instead of closing doors and burning bridges, let us make the effort to communicate openly.
Ho Chi Sam
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